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Top 10 Ways to Alienate People

Top 10 Ways to Alienate People

By Tasha Turner

Thank you Beth-Ann Mason for helping me when my mind went blank today.

Doing the following may alienate your friends, family, readers, and potential readers

1. Talk about politics – unless your are a pundit or it plays into your book

2. Talk about religion – unless you write religious-themed books – and even then, only from an objective view – without preaching

3. Talk about /constantly promote your book/your service / yourself – remember the 80/20 rule – or you end up looking like a spammer

  1. 80% of what you post should be of interest to your audience – help them – promote them
  2. 20% of what you post should be about you/your book/product/service

4. Not promoting/helping your network – eventually your network will stop promoting you

5. Constantly ask others to do things for you

6. Put others down / criticize others online –  in the end this usually makes you look bad and if they do not respond but instead continue with business as usual people will wonder what is really going on

7. Put up posts without links and expect others to be able to find things – social networking means that if you mention someone /their book/product/service you link to them otherwise you’ve not fully done your part of the job

8. Take blog comments personally – take the bait when someone leaves an inflammatory comment – this will make sure you lose your friends and followers

9. Respond to your critics  – this is the best way to destroy your career as no matter what you do in the end you will look bad and the incident will follow you forever

10.   Complain and moan about your life constantly – people won’t want to keep reading you for very long as you just leave them depressed

I hope you enjoyed this post

What is in your top 10 list of ways people alienate you?

What makes you decide to stop following/unfriend people?

Inspiration for this post included “The Look” by Roxette

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About the author

Tasha Turner

I am a writer and a one-on-one social media coach. I teach people how to brand themselves and how to use social media effectively.

Currently I am co-authoring a short story about a Jewish vampire to be released in 2012 as an e-book. This will be my 1st fiction. I have written a number of computer manuals and managed a tech writing group as well as editing others work for 20 years. Tasha Turner is my Pen Name and has become my professional name by default.

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  • http://www.janecarrollauthor.com Jane Carroll

    Great post Tasha. I have to say that there are a few people that I used to enjoy reading but have lost interest in due to some inflamatory tirads they got on. Blogs tend to get so personal…but sometimes it is better to vent somewhere else.

    Thanks for sharing these great tips…and please…slap me…virtual of course :) …if I do any of them!

    • http://www.facebook.com/TashaTurnerAuthor Tasha Turner

      Always happy to slap you? No that is not what I meant… I don’t think I’ve ever seen you doing any of those bad behaviors Jane… so I don’t expect to ever need to virtually slap you. It is sad watching something good go downhill. Blogs are not the place to vent although sometimes you can take something you want to vent about and do a well crafted blog post about the topic. Venting really should be done privately and not publicly as today we usually link our followers to us everywhere we are. My followers see me on FB, Twitter, my blog, and a number of other much less frequently used social media tools.

  • http://cathybrockman.com Cathy Brockman

    Great article!! so true.. I hate it when people friend you as you to like their page and pm you all their info and never actually speak to me or when you send or accepted request they say.. oh this page is for family and friends only would you please like my professional page? ( what am i chopped liver) yes this happens a lot. and i say NO

    • http://www.facebook.com/TashaTurnerAuthor Tasha Turner

      I totally agree with you Cathy. And no you are not chopped liver… more like a good grilled bbq ribs :)

  • http://charityburke.blogspot.com/ Chastity Burke

    I hate it, here I am new profile and all doing the friend requests. I had one immediately send me an IM asking me to like their page. I was extremely put off. I really shouldn’t have liked it at all, but I’m trying to get my feet wet. I know of an author that has an entire profile filled with all her promos and nothing but. I have heard of writers wanting to use an author profile instead of a personal one, but why can’t you do a little of both? I hate the depressing posts too, it really brings me down when I’m more of a up person. Thanks for the great post Tasha!

    • http://www.facebook.com/TashaTurnerAuthor Tasha Turner

      Sorry for not replying earlier. Glad you enjoyed the post. At least with the bad behavior you know what not to do! I learned a lot watching others and how I felt about what they were doing. Did I hide their feed? Did I click like and later go back and unlike their page? Did I unfriend or even block someone? If the answer was yes then I knew that was a behavior to avoid. If on the other hand I find myself tracking down where else on the net a person is so i can follow/friend them and promote them more than other friends I know that is behavior I want to copy.


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